Relationships

[Antares]

An ultimate solution to keeping healthy relationships is to realize that expectations are not (should not be treated as) requirements.

This reveals the nature of reality: a new relationship becomes unhealthy in the first second that it occured, just not necesserily realized or realized fully. The time does not exist - only hiding the truth from us makes this illusion of "discovering" something about someone that in our eyes may make the relationship unhealthy. This means that "unhealthy" is something within - our hidden perception of ourselves in time reveals (not changes) the relationship - unless we change ourselves.

How to overcome a trap of time, hiding from us the truth about a potential relationship? Two ways come to my mind:
- being aware that other people's expectations are something that do not require from us meeting these expectations - so we have a choice to react in any way we want, and when this choice is in attunement with our real selves (spirit), it would be natural to us
- taking advantage of the law of resonance / telepathy to go beyond time-space limitations and discover those expectations - or speaking more closely to how people think: simply figuring them out by use of telepathy, which is pretty simple when trained

When practising this, you would realize at certain point that you actually "work" not on a relationship, but on yourself. Because the term "relationship" means to relate / to be relative to some(thing / one), and it always has two sides:
- one is how we relate (choose to react) to others - if we choose unhealthy way, the relationship is simply unhealthy in the first second that it has been established, as time does not exist (as mentioned above)
- second is how we relate to ourselves - which in turn leads us to the previous point when relationships are considered

[Antares]

How to identify a right relationship? By the attraction feeling that has quality in it. How to identify an improper one? By your thoughts going forth and back and nothing more - a sign of intuition trying to suggest you it is not a good direction.

[CFTraveler]

An ultimate solution to keeping healthy relationships is to realize that expectations are not (should not be treated as) requirements.

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[Antares]

There is no worse way to a relationship than demands-oriented. It is based on fear. There is no better way to a relationship than appealing-oriented. It is based on love.

Relationship means being related to anything else. The nature of this relation can be presented in a mathematical way - which is evident in astrology. Relation in mathematics can be measured by a number; but conceptually it can be presented as a quality - which (the qualities) numbers also represent (modern mathematicians rejected this concept along with the sacred geometry behind it, but it was present in the ancient Pythagorean teachings as well - the scientists took only the applied part of his teachings).

The higher number the stronger relationship. (1 is higher than 2, 2 is higher than 3 and so on - you won't believe it just because you have a different framework :) think like Egyptians: 1 is whole, 2 is whole divided into 2 parts, 3 is whole divided into 3 parts - and so forth). Modern astrologers tend to say that square is stronger than a triangle, but I would not say so - it is just more explicit and evident because of the tensions it brings.

Relationships between people can be represented by numbers - not one, as relationships tend to be complex/complicated, but sometimes one number may dominate all the others. This theory is weakly understood today.

Beyond numbers (mathematics, science, or mental sphere at all) there is spirit and archetypes creating concepts which in turn create thoughts that can be applied, as shown above. Spiritual is the alchemy which transforms any number into anything else. People do not believe that because they tend to think that only equations create the universe. But the equations do not - spirit does.

The concept of "relationship" itself is beyond any mathematics. Mathematics is a concept (and bunch of related concepts) applied (in mental sphere). ;) Love is spiritual quality, it does not need application, it just transforms the reality, like in the law of attraction. Its effects can be measured, but love itself can not be. It is beyond mental.

Love is compound of all four elements: fire, water, air and earth. It is very useful, therefore, in any alchemy. Love does not need strategy, it melts when it needs to (water), it is purposeful when there is move needed (fire), it illuminates the mind when the time is right (air) and it is fixed, solid and unchangable, balancing the other influences (earth). It adds also a quality to itself (ether, the 5th element). Beyond these elements there is spirit. Love is all of those - and at the same time none of them.