Dreamed about this man again!?

[niki123]

It was a very rainy night here and I had this dream that felt like it went on all night long.I saw myself in my bed then I saw this man I've been dreaming about in his bed and he was saying to himself that he had to find her and then I saw myself with him in the same bed telling me that he was so happy to have found me.Weird !This really went on all night long. Well,I can say that for a few days I've been so so annoyed by everything it's not funny.Every injustice done to me makes me so angry and it's this overwhelming anger I can't control.It feels like it's coming from deep inside of me. :oops: :? :shock: :roll:

[Tutor]

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[niki123]

I am angry because I am not being heard and ignored and also because some great injustices were made against me.Last night I forgave everyone that has ever done something wrong to me but this morning my oldest son came over and made me angry with his attitude.Next time he comes over uninvited,I'll pretend that I'm not home and I will not let him in. :twisted:

[CFTraveler]

I am angry because I am not being heard and ignored and also because some great injustices were made against me.Last night I forgave everyone that has ever done something wrong to me but this morning my oldest son came over and made me angry with his attitude.Next time he comes over uninvited,I'll pretend that I'm not home and I will not let him in. :twisted: If you indeed do this, (pretend you're not home) it shows you're avoiding the issue, and perpetuating the issue of not being heard. It seems to me that you have to make yourself heard, even if you have to repeat yourself. But avoiding issues is another way of setting yourself up to not be respected and/or heard.

[niki123]

Oh well,that didn't work out.I'm not so angry anymore but I do feel this heat and some pain in my solar plexus and in my heart chakra.My other younger son told me today that he wants a male role model in his life .This made me cry and it made me feel better.Wow,he wants a father in his life.I tried to tell him that his father is no good and that's why he is not in their life.Well,in other words ,he wants me to marry someone else so that he can have a father.Oh,and don't get me started on my daughter!Now there are two of them!
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I am angry because I am not being heard and ignored and also because some great injustices were made against me.Last night I forgave everyone that has ever done something wrong to me but this morning my oldest son came over and made me angry with his attitude.Next time he comes over uninvited,I'll pretend that I'm not home and I will not let him in. :twisted: If you indeed do this, (pretend you're not home) it shows you're avoiding the issue, and perpetuating the issue of not being heard. It seems to me that you have to make yourself heard, even if you have to repeat yourself. But avoiding issues is another way of setting yourself up to not be respected and/or heard.

[CFTraveler]

Oh well,that didn't work out.I'm not so angry anymore but I do feel this heat and some pain in my solar plexus and in my heart chakra.My other younger son told me today that he wants a male role model in his life .This made me cry and it made me feel better.Wow,he wants a father in his life.I tried to tell him that his father is no good and that's why he is not in their life. I must not be understanding what you are saying. Are you angry because your younger son wants to have a healthy role model?


Well,in other words ,he wants me to marry someone else so that he can have a father.Oh,and don't get me started on my daughter!Now there are two of them! I don't understand this either.

[niki123]

Oh no,he is not the one who made me angry.My oldest son did.And no I'm not upset that he wants a male role model but I'm just surprised that now both my younger kids are thinking about that. :shock:


Oh well,that didn't work out.I'm not so angry anymore but I do feel this heat and some pain in my solar plexus and in my heart chakra.My other younger son told me today that he wants a male role model in his life .This made me cry and it made me feel better.Wow,he wants a father in his life.I tried to tell him that his father is no good and that's why he is not in their life. I must not be understanding what you are saying. Are you angry because your younger son wants to have a healthy role model?


Well,in other words ,he wants me to marry someone else so that he can have a father.Oh,and don't get me started on my daughter!Now there are two of them! I don't understand this either.

[Korpo]

I am angry because I am not being heard and ignored and also because some great injustices were made against me.

Hello, niki123.

I truly can relate at the moment - similarly here. Some injust things, some things that are hard on me, pretty tough time altogether. Just hang in there, too, okay?

Of course such a quick succession of traumata and shocks can evoke strong emotions. In my case fear, sometimes even panic, sadness, rage. But after every wave of assault a gradual rebalancing takes place.

Part of the trick for me is just seeing for everything that's going on to decide what needs to be done next and just doing it. Do it when there is the proper time and get it out of my mind by having done it. Not looking at the end or any goal but the next step. And keep all things going to the extent that I am capable of. At the same time I have to realise my limits and there are some things I save for next week or later because else I hit a wall.

There is a truly wonderful book out there full of wisdom, disguised as a book for children, and it's Michael Ende's wonderful novel "Momo." One character is a street sweeper, and one that does his job with care and with joy, but how can he accomplish that?


"...it's like this. Sometimes, when you've a very long street ahead of you, you think how terribly long it is and feel sure you'll never get it swept. And then you start to hurry. You work faster and faster and every time you look up there seems to be just as much left to sweep as before, and you try even harder, and you panic, and in the end you're out of breath and have to stop--and still the street stretches away in front of you. That's not the way to do it.

You must never think of the whole street at once, understand? You must only concentrate on the next step, the next breath, the next stroke of the broom, and the next, and the next. Nothing else.

That way you enjoy your work, which is important, because then you make a good job of it. And that's how it ought to be.

And all at once, before you know it, you find you've swept the whole street clean, bit by bit. what's more, you aren't out of breath. That's important, too...(Michael Ende, "Momo")

Even the biggest thing that hits us somehow has a next step to it. You cannot finish it up now, you can not get rid of it now, but there will be a next step, there will be some action down the road, and some time to make it. And while not, there might be something else demanding your attention, offering opportunity for action in another area. There's always places to get unstuck, always places where you want to get back into flow.

Similarly, there will be consequences to all your actions and how you react to them. These reactions can be improved, time and time over, and will in the long run lead to better actions and better consequences. It all depends on developing observation skills (identifying the consequences and trying to match them with your actions) and the ability to try different actions to get different results. Kurt calls this "flexibility of consciousness," and this concept serves me very well, even in hard times.

So, why the long sermon? ;) Because I think several things are possible here. On the one hand there are clear injustices, and it seems that sometimes injustices happen - their causes lie in the past and they get triggered now. They might be out of proportion and undeserved in their magnitude, but still you can have some extent of control over your reactions (not indulging in negative emotions) and might be able to take action to ameliorate the effects.

The other thing has to do with what your children told you. Instead of having to guess like many other single parents what would be best your children freely gave you their okay to open up to the possibility of a new partner. A possible new path of action.

So, on the one hand you have the injustices and your reactions and counter-actions, and that is growth in adversity. On the other hand you have this new window of opportunity opening if you want to take advantage of it. Nothing could be a clearer message than straight out of a child's mouth itself. And this is growth as well.

Altogether it depends on how willing you are to keep your reactions in check (not with force, but with awareness of how useless or damaging some reactions are) and how flexible you are in finding new responses to your most recent problems or in taking advantage of new opportunities.

Take care,
Oliver

[niki123]

Thank you,Oliver.Somehow,I feel much better in spite of being plagued with a sinus infection,again.BTw,Robert's affirmations really work.Last night I tried a few of them like"My body is healing now" and "My life is calm and beautiful",lol.I felt such a wave of energy as I said these that I was amazed.Before I fell asleep,I felt really happy and couldn't help but giggle.Change your focus,change your life.Yeeeeyyyyyyy! :mrgreen: :D


I am angry because I am not being heard and ignored and also because some great injustices were made against me.

Hello, niki123.

I truly can relate at the moment - similarly here. Some injust things, some things that are hard on me, pretty tough time altogether. Just hang in there, too, okay?

Of course such a quick succession of traumata and shocks can evoke strong emotions. In my case fear, sometimes even panic, sadness, rage. But after every wave of assault a gradual rebalancing takes place.

Part of the trick for me is just seeing for everything that's going on to decide what needs to be done next and just doing it. Do it when there is the proper time and get it out of my mind by having done it. Not looking at the end or any goal but the next step. And keep all things going to the extent that I am capable of. At the same time I have to realise my limits and there are some things I save for next week or later because else I hit a wall.

There is a truly wonderful book out there full of wisdom, disguised as a book for children, and it's Michael Ende's wonderful novel "Momo." One character is a street sweeper, and one that does his job with care and with joy, but how can he accomplish that?


"...it's like this. Sometimes, when you've a very long street ahead of you, you think how terribly long it is and feel sure you'll never get it swept. And then you start to hurry. You work faster and faster and every time you look up there seems to be just as much left to sweep as before, and you try even harder, and you panic, and in the end you're out of breath and have to stop--and still the street stretches away in front of you. That's not the way to do it.

You must never think of the whole street at once, understand? You must only concentrate on the next step, the next breath, the next stroke of the broom, and the next, and the next. Nothing else.

That way you enjoy your work, which is important, because then you make a good job of it. And that's how it ought to be.

And all at once, before you know it, you find you've swept the whole street clean, bit by bit. what's more, you aren't out of breath. That's important, too...(Michael Ende, "Momo")

Even the biggest thing that hits us somehow has a next step to it. You cannot finish it up now, you can not get rid of it now, but there will be a next step, there will be some action down the road, and some time to make it. And while not, there might be something else demanding your attention, offering opportunity for action in another area. There's always places to get unstuck, always places where you want to get back into flow.

Similarly, there will be consequences to all your actions and how you react to them. These reactions can be improved, time and time over, and will in the long run lead to better actions and better consequences. It all depends on developing observation skills (identifying the consequences and trying to match them with your actions) and the ability to try different actions to get different results. Kurt calls this "flexibility of consciousness," and this concept serves me very well, even in hard times.

So, why the long sermon? ;) Because I think several things are possible here. On the one hand there are clear injustices, and it seems that sometimes injustices happen - their causes lie in the past and they get triggered now. They might be out of proportion and undeserved in their magnitude, but still you can have some extent of control over your reactions (not indulging in negative emotions) and might be able to take action to ameliorate the effects.

The other thing has to do with what your children told you. Instead of having to guess like many other single parents what would be best your children freely gave you their okay to open up to the possibility of a new partner. A possible new path of action.

So, on the one hand you have the injustices and your reactions and counter-actions, and that is growth in adversity. On the other hand you have this new window of opportunity opening if you want to take advantage of it. Nothing could be a clearer message than straight out of a child's mouth itself. And this is growth as well.

Altogether it depends on how willing you are to keep your reactions in check (not with force, but with awareness of how useless or damaging some reactions are) and how flexible you are in finding new responses to your most recent problems or in taking advantage of new opportunities.

Take care,
Oliver

[Korpo]

Thank you,Oliver.Somehow,I feel much better in spite of being plagued with a sinus infection,again.BTw,Robert's affirmations really work.Last night I tried a few of them like"My body is healing now" and "My life is calm and beautiful",lol.I felt such a wave of energy as I said these that I was amazed.Before I fell asleep,I felt really happy and couldn't help but giggle.Change your focus,change your life.Yeeeeyyyyyyy! :mrgreen: :D

Good to hear! :D

Oliver

[niki123]

Yes,you read that right!After freezing all night long,I woke up about 8:30am,used the bathroom then grabbed a blanket from the closet, covered myself up and went right back to sleep.I was with this man in this huge house and we were doing and I'll say this nicely hanky panky.I'm sure this forum gets lots of spam even without me talking about you know what,lol.And after this I went outside with my mother.Strangely,my mother looked very different.She was thinner and her short hair was not curled and she had a tan.The back yard was sort of like a park setting,wood bench,huge trees,grass,flowers and a water fountain and it was a nice warm summer day and a little breezy.I could see the ocean in the background between the trees. :shock: My cat was inside and outside were 2 stray cats and I was thinking that I didn't want my cat seeying me holding the strays because he doesn't like other cats.It just felt so real it must have been an obe.My daughter woke me up about 10:30 am and I was flat on my back and had this splitting headache.Actually the top of my head still feels like it's going to split open,lol.Your thoughts on this please? :D

[Korpo]

Hello, niki123.

The hanky panky might have been you releasing some desire energy ;) before you can leave the dream environment behind. Then you meet a guide or facilitator who's nourishing and possible authority you might have identified with your mother - but your mind overlays that with a lot of visual differences that say "motherly energy, not quite your mother."

You could say the astral plane is the "backyard" of the dream zone, in a way. A lot less people make it there, hence the order of things (kind of back-to-front).

The environment you found yourself in sounds very promising:

Huge trees mean lots of growth. Flowing water can be energy, and water fountains is then energy shooting up. An ocean could mean the mental plane, I have now repeatedly read of accounts representing it as such. Seeing it through the trees might mean that this is the "perspective" of your growth, where you are heading, where you can aspire to now. If you couldn't there might have been some barrier, but seeing it "through the trees" kind of means you can get there "through growth."

There are other aspects which suggest the upper astral plane here, for example the sensations on top of your head. This could denote your astral crown chakra becoming active, which according to Kurt means that you're getting close to moving beyond the astral phase of your development. Also this would mean you would be able to reach the upper levels of the astral plane, bordering on the mental plane (the ocean).

Your feelings of this being so real that you classify it as OBE indicate that all of this might have been the case.

Oliver

[niki123]

Thank you Oliver.It sounds good. :D

Hello, niki123.

The hanky panky might have been you releasing some desire energy ;) before you can leave the dream environment behind. Then you meet a guide or facilitator who's nourishing and possible authority you might have identified with your mother - but your mind overlays that with a lot of visual differences that say "motherly energy, not quite your mother."

You could say the astral plane is the "backyard" of the dream zone, in a way. A lot less people make it there, hence the order of things (kind of back-to-front).

The environment you found yourself in sounds very promising:

Huge trees mean lots of growth. Flowing water can be energy, and water fountains is then energy shooting up. An ocean could mean the mental plane, I have now repeatedly read of accounts representing it as such. Seeing it through the trees might mean that this is the "perspective" of your growth, where you are heading, where you can aspire to now. If you couldn't there might have been some barrier, but seeing it "through the trees" kind of means you can get there "through growth."

There are other aspects which suggest the upper astral plane here, for example the sensations on top of your head. This could denote your astral crown chakra becoming active, which according to Kurt means that you're getting close to moving beyond the astral phase of your development. Also this would mean you would be able to reach the upper levels of the astral plane, bordering on the mental plane (the ocean).

Your feelings of this being so real that you classify it as OBE indicate that all of this might have been the case.

Oliver

[niki123]

I dreamed about him this morning,again.I was with him at this store and I was buying something and it was for a house.I picked up a bucket of paint,a roller and a really dark blue rug runner and then my cat came in my bed and snuggled right next to me and woke me up right before my alarm went off.I have another sinus infection and I feel like crap.I think that I saw him in RL on Tuesday across from my train platform but I'm not 100% sure because nothing happened and I'm not really myself being sick and all. :? :shock: :( Please help !

[CFTraveler]

To see a man in your dream, denotes the masculine aspect of yourself - the side that is assertive, rational, aggressive, and/or competitive...
If you are a woman and dream that you are in the arms of a man, suggests that you are accepting and welcoming your stronger assertive personality . It may also highlight your desires to be in a relationship and your image of the ideal man.

http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/m.htm


Why 'please help'? What is the problem?

[Korpo]

Hello, niki123.


I dreamed about him this morning,again.I was with him at this store and I was buying something and it was for a house. I picked up a bucket of paint,a roller and a really dark blue rug runner

Well, I'd say this dream has some good signs in it. Stuff for settimg up a new home - I'm sure you wouldn't miss your old one... ;) New paint is what you usually do before you move into a new place, so this is preparatory, and the rug is probably for making you feel comfortable within the new setting you're entering.

Get well soon!

Oliver

[niki123]

Thank you for answering CFTraveler.Well,I saw him IRL.That's the problem.


To see a man in your dream, denotes the masculine aspect of yourself - the side that is assertive, rational, aggressive, and/or competitive...
If you are a woman and dream that you are in the arms of a man, suggests that you are accepting and welcoming your stronger assertive personality . It may also highlight your desires to be in a relationship and your image of the ideal man.

http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/m.htm


Why 'please help'? What is the problem?

[niki123]

Thank you ,Oliver.Right now my head and sinuses feel like they are about to burst.

Hello, niki123.


I dreamed about him this morning,again.I was with him at this store and I was buying something and it was for a house. I picked up a bucket of paint,a roller and a really dark blue rug runner

Well, I'd say this dream has some good signs in it. Stuff for settimg up a new home - I'm sure you wouldn't miss your old one... ;) New paint is what you usually do before you move into a new place, so this is preparatory, and the rug is probably for making you feel comfortable within the new setting you're entering.

Get well soon!

Oliver

[CFTraveler]

I don't understand why seeing him IRL is a problem. Are you afraid you're hallucinating him?

[niki123]

No I was not hallucinating.He can't be my masculine side then,can he ?

I don't understand why seeing him IRL is a problem. Are you afraid you're hallucinating him?

[CFTraveler]

No, maybe I'm not understanding. I don't think you're hallucinating him. I just ask why you say "Please Help" as if seeing this man in the physical was something that scares you, or you don't want- so I asked if the reason you were asking for help as if you were in distress was that perhaps you were doubting your own eyes.
I have no opinion as to what this man means, and your masculine side may be an option, also a guide, etc.- no idea- I just am baffled at your reaction, or what your reaction seems to be. Maybe I'm reading it wrong.
???

[niki123]

I have dreamed about him often for the past 4 years,I saw him then the dreams stopped and now they started again and I saw him again.I'm confused !Why do I dream about him over and over and over and why do I see him but I was told not to talk to him when I saw him the first time.I was under the impression that our guides can't be seen by other people and are not in RL.

No, maybe I'm not understanding. I don't think you're hallucinating him. I just ask why you say "Please Help" as if seeing this man in the physical was something that scares you, or you don't want- so I asked if the reason you were asking for help as if you were in distress was that perhaps you were doubting your own eyes.
I have no opinion as to what this man means, and your masculine side may be an option, also a guide, etc.- no idea- I just am baffled at your reaction, or what your reaction seems to be. Maybe I'm reading it wrong.
???

[Korpo]

Hello, niki123.

There could be a precognitive element involved. Maybe this person you saw is indeed the person referenced in your dreams. Maybe this person will play some role in your life, but the problem with precognition is that you know about things before they manifest or are ready. So, if this is indeed the person things might just not yet be "in position."

So, maybe that's the case here. I really can't say.

Also people in dreams often play various roles. Family members, co-workers, people you know, they all could be themselves or symbols for certain traits or guides trying to reach you through a certain relationship and so on. Still the recurring image of a person is usually something special because it is not taken from your life but from somewhere else, from other levels of your being.

Sorry to be so vague, but I'm just exploring possibilites here.

Take care,
Oliver

[Cielo]

Hi niki,

Do a search on "Twin Flames". I think the search results might answer some of your questions. :)

[niki123]

Ha,ha !Hilarious!What do you think I did the first 2 years I dreamed about him? Yeah,twin flames! Only I know what happened and what felt like the first time I saw him.It was out of this world and nothing compares to it!I seem to see different man that look like him but the feeling is just not there !
:lol:
Hi niki,

Do a search on "Twin Flames". I think the search results might answer some of your questions. :)

[Cielo]

Ha,ha !Hilarious!What do you think I did the first 2 years I dreamed about him? Yeah,twin flames! Only I know what happened and what felt like the first time I saw him.It was out of this world and nothing compares to it!I seem to see different man that look like him but the feeling is just not there !
:lol:
Hi niki,

Do a search on "Twin Flames". I think the search results might answer some of your questions. :)

Sorry. :? I joined not too long ago and have not read your previous posts. I have had a similar "problem" (non-stop telepathic bond) that has been going on since late 2008. I thought I had lost my marbles when it first started. I did not know about twin flames until recently. I was just trying to help.

[niki123]

Sorry if I seemed sarcastic to you,Cielo.I have researched all I could find about twinflames in 2006 when all this stuff started and I was dreaming about him often like every 2 weeks.Then I saw him and I can't explain what happened but to preserve my sanity I had to let him go and now it started again?And to think that an hour before I saw him the first time,I questioned my sanity and then after it happened I knew that I was not crazy.What if he does not want me? I've read your post about your twin flame and all I can say is that I was very sure that I have severed my connection to mine but I can't tell you if that is a good thing or not.Thank you for trying to help.


Ha,ha !Hilarious!What do you think I did the first 2 years I dreamed about him? Yeah,twin flames! Only I know what happened and what felt like the first time I saw him.It was out of this world and nothing compares to it!I seem to see different man that look like him but the feeling is just not there !
:lol:
Hi niki,

Do a search on "Twin Flames". I think the search results might answer some of your questions. :)

Sorry. :? I joined not too long ago and have not read your previous posts. I have had a similar "problem" (non-stop telepathic bond) that has been going on since late 2008. I thought I had lost my marbles when it first started. I did not know about twin flames until recently. I was just trying to help.